Discernment Counseling
For Couples at a Crossroads
Not all couples come to therapy knowing they want to stay together. Sometimes, one partner is thinking seriously about leaving while the other is holding on, hoping to work things out. If you’re in that in-between space—where everything feels uncertain and the future of your relationship is unclear—Discernment Counseling can help.
What You’ll Gain
A deeper understanding of how you got here—and what’s at stake
Clarity on each partner’s hopes, fears, and level of commitment
Support in deciding one of three paths:
Stay the same
Move toward separation
Commit to couples therapy with a clear intention
This process typically takes 1–5 sessions and involves a mix of joint and individual conversations.
This Is for You If:
You feel stuck—torn between leaving and staying
One of you is leaning out, and the other is still leaning in
You’ve been going in circles and can’t seem to move forward
You want to make a decision that honors both your hearts
This process is not a fit if:
Both of you are fully committed to doing the work of repair (you’re ready for couples therapy instead)
There’s active abuse or untreated addiction in the relationship
A gentle, time-limited process (up to 5 sessions)
Space to explore honestly—without blame, pressure, or judgment
A better understanding of how you got here, and what might come next
Support in choosing one of three paths: Stay, Go, or 6 months to work on it.
No matter what you choose, you’ll leave with deeper insight—about your relationship, your partner, and yourself.
